Are you hoping to find a girl who you can be in a steady relationship with? This article will go over some of the things you can do that will help your chances with any girl.




1. Talk to as many women as possible, not just girls you're immediately attracted to. This give you good practice in talking to women (especially if you have any anxiety about that) and learning about how girls feel and think, in general. Make it a goal to talk to at least 5 new women a day (in person, any woman, any age, any appearance, any personality).


2. Don't use “canned material”, “nuclear attraction” routines, or other social robotics. The best way to make a connection with someone is to come from the heart and live fully in the moment. What you say isn’t nearly as important as how you say it. Socializing is about exchanging energy, not being a wordsmith. When in doubt, just say “Hi”.


3. Put yourself out there. You don't have to hit the bars or the clubs if that's not your scene, but you have to do something that exposes you to new people. Pursue interests and activities that mean a lot to you. The Internet has made this a whole lot easier. Check forums, listings, classifieds, and listservs for local events or meetings that are likely to attract people with similar interests or passions. You can also explore new interests or activities--you might find a new passion and a girlfriend in one fell swoop!


4. Keep an open mind. If you're looking for a girlfriend (that is, someone who will be in a committed relationship with you) you should be more willing to overlook initial shyness and awkwardness so that you can get to know a person over more than one date. Your future girlfriend might be someone who you initially didn't see as "girlfriend material" but as you spend more time with her, you discover more things you like about her and you suddenly find yourself romantically interested.


5. Practice genuinely complimenting girls. Challenge yourself to find something beautiful in any girl. It doesn't have to be something physical; it can be a cute gesture, an admirable trait, a talent or skill. Recognizing and expressing true appreciation for any and every girl will make you more attracted to girls and girls more attracted to you.


6. Flirt. A big part of being charming is knowing how to flirt, and the people who are best at flirting are people who are always in a playful and laid back.


7. Become a good conversationalist. Don't babble on and on about your mother, your cat, or your collection of bugs. A good conversationalist keeps finding things they have in common, and they do it in a casual, non-intrusive way. For example, there's a difference between asking someone "Have you ever held a tarantula?" and saying "Have you ever felt the tiny hairs of a tarantula's legs brush up against the palm of your hand?" The latter is more poetic, but way too intimate for a first conversation for most people.




8. Close the deal. If you like the woman you're talking to, be the one who ends the conversation. This prevents the conversation from lingering into an awkward silence, shows that you're busy (i.e. not needy or desperate), and allows you to end the conversation on a positive note. When you end the conversation, simply say "Hey, I've gotta go, but it's been really good talking to you. Want to continue this over a cup of coffee sometime?" If she says yes, get her phone number and move on. If she says no, just move on. That's all there is to it.


9. When you go on dates with girls, break the touch barrier. If you're terrified of touching someone the wrong way, to the extent that you hesitate and never touch them first, your intentions are good and all, but your "touch paralysis" isn't helping you at all in the romantic department. Take a few little "touch risks". Be playful. Don't just always wait for them to do it first. If they don't like it, they'll definitely let you know. But touching someone communicates to them that you find them attractive, and also that you're reasonably confident. Both of these things can make someone feel more attracted to you.


10. Make her laugh. Girls love guys who have a good sense of humor, and the key to having a good sense of humor is to be lighthearted, and unabashedly yourself. As long as you're not making fun of people in a mean-spirited way, anything goes. Is your sense of humor perverted? Slapstick? Sarcastic? Go with it, and don't worry about whether or not she thinks you're funny because you know what? If she can't laugh with you, then this isn't a girl you want to spend a lot of time with anyway. And who knows? Maybe another girl—one whom you hadn't noticed before—will be laughing so hard that her soda comes out of her nose, and maybe you've just found your soulmate.


11. Help someone. It could be her, or it could be someone else in the room. Is she carrying something heavy? Say "let me help you with that" and carry it for her. Is someone short on cash? Lend them a few dollars so they can eat lunch. Hold the door open for the next person coming through, even if they haven't reached it yet. In other words, be a kind and generous person. Not only will it get her attention, but it will also make you feel good about yourself. Don't be fake and do nice things only when she's around, though. Help people all the time, in a wide variety of ways. She'll notice, and so will the people she knows, and on the occasion that you come up in a conversation, people will say "He's such a great person!" and this girl will start thinking "Yeah...he is, isn't he?"




12. If you find yourself getting lots of girl friends but no girlfriend, avoid the friend zone. The key here is to stop investing time and energy into girls who don't want to be your girlfriend. That may sound cold, but the fact is that you're "tying up" your feelings by maintaining a close friendship with someone who you have feelings for, but who isn't romantically interested in you. It'll be difficult to develop feelings for someone else if your feelings for this person are fueled every time you hang out. Even if you do manage to develop feelings for someone else, your heart might always be torn and confused, and it'll be hard to give your new flame your undivided affection. Sometimes the best thing to do is to take a "friend zone" friendship down to the level of acquaintance so you can focus more on dating.


13. If you find that girls are interested in you and then pull away, stop being needy. You might be scaring women off with your eagerness (which can come off as desperation). Slow down, and avoid the temptation to idealize every girl you like. If you find yourself using or even thinking the word "perfect" then you're probably putting her on a pedestal. Fill your life with so many activities that you're too busy to become infatuated with any one girl.


14. Be patient. Life doesn't normally work on the schedule you envision. Your future girlfriend might cross your path tomorrow or two years from now. A healthy relationship will color your world no matter how old you are, so don't rush into things, or else you might end up forcing the wrong person into the girlfriend role, which will cause pain for everyone involved.














Tips


# Have your own life. Girls don't like guys who have no lives, and who cling to them like plastic wrap. Some girls do like that, but for all the wrong reasons—either they are insecure and needy for attention, or they're control freaks who have a need for dominating guys. Unless you want to sign up for either of those scenarios, make sure your life has no shortage of your own friendships, interest, hobbies and goals.


# Whenever you're in a setting where there are girls around, talk to all of them and choose one you'd like to spend more time with. Make it a habit to try and exchange contact information with at least one girl every time you're around them. If she isn't interested, no big deal, there's always next time. If you go on a few dates and it doesn't turn into a relationship, that's no big deal either. The point is the more you date, the higher your chances of getting a girlfriend.


# Extended, direct eye contact is something lovers usually do. It's something you can do if the person you're talking to is noticeably romantically interested, but even then it's risky because the creep factor is high if you're mistaken. Look someone in the eye while they're talking, but also be sure to pull your gaze away periodically and shift your interest to other things. And check to make sure you don't have a tendency of staring at someone's body (chest, hands, shoes, whatever) even if in admiration or curiosity. In general, you don't want to make someone feel like they're under a microscope.


# Learn to read body language. Whether you notice or not, people are always giving signal as to how they feel about you. If you're able to read these signals, you'll be able to adapt your words and behavior so that you can do more of what a girl likes, or stop wasting time with girls who don't like anything you're saying or doing.


Warnings


# Don't talk about past relationships. This is a no-no and a sure turn-off. You will only project the impression that you are unable to let go. If a girl asks about your last relationship, just tell them that you realized the two of you weren't as compatible as you initially thought, so you have moved on to look for someone with whom to discover greater mutual happiness. Keep it brief and don't ask about their ex.


# Be positive. If you have had a bad day, still greet them with pleasure and a big smile. Don't spend your time with a girl complaining about the traffic, your boss, or your job. If you must whine, whine a little and end that very short whine with a "glad I'm here with you now!" remark.


# It's worth repeating that you should not go on and on about unique hobbies or interests unless the person shares them or asks a lot of questions. If they only ask a few questions, that doesn't necessarily mean they're interested; it probably means they're being polite, so don't dominate the conversation with your enthusiasm. When first meeting someone, it's more important to listen to what they have to say than to talk about yourself.


# One thing that holds many guys back is being scared that she'll misinterpret you. For example, you might not want to help her carry something because you're worried she'll think you're a macho guy, and you're implying that she can't carry it herself. But push the fear aside and think about what you're really doing. You're just helping her because you genuinely want to, and what could possibly be wrong with that? If you're not trying to question her ability in any way, then she's not a very nice girl for assuming that you are, is she? So be bold. If what you're doing comes from the heart, a decent girl will see that.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Make Girls Like You! Three Ways!

Women?
How do you get them to like you?
I’ve had many conversations about that. Face it, any bloke in his right frame would want to be the center of attention in a room full of women. 
The thought of such a situation got me to where I am now – I have a great gal – I knew I had to learn about getting good with women.
Don’t worry too much about the mirror. No matter how ugly or handsome, there’s always someone better or worse. But, what to do?
Guess what? The ladies like personality more than they like looks. Ari Onassis landed Jackie O. He’s not really a handsome man. But he landed one of the world’s most charming and beautiful women. Take heart.
So what if you inherited a less than average set of genes. You have power in other areas:
Build your self-confidence to turn women’s heads.
Self-confidence is a powerful tool. If you exude self-confidence, you’ve practically got a woman on your arm. It’s not hard to be self-confident, you may already have the attribute. Basically, being self-confidence is being in the habit of doing things that you or others are afraid to do. And knowing you’re right.
If you feel you’re lacking in that area, start with little things and work your way up. Handling what life throws at you, and handling it well, will gradually build your self-confidence.
Pick up some skills to pick up some girls.
“Skills?” you may ask. Yes, skills. Gals want guys who can do neat things. (It’s no small thing to hack into a forbidden server, or excel at bow-hunting, or tune up a car, but those skills aren’t exactly endearing to a woman’s frame of mind.) Developing positive skills to attract and surprise women can be a real deal maker.
Learn how to cook. Learn how to dance. Learn a romance language. Learn to play the guitar. Have an interesting hobby. I once set up a small aquarium in a girl’s apartment and she immediately fell in love with me. Being able to do things such as these will make you stand out in a crowd. Women like singularly talented men better than all the regular Joe’s.
Flirting is fun and girls love it.
Learning how to flirt well is a great way to get girls to like you. Do it often.
Flirting well is the key. Flirting is a delicate art form.
Flattery and not being too serious are the two main requirements regarding flirting.
Please, don’t be a Neanderthal. Hollering at a lady and telling her she has a nice butt is just plain wrong. Such action is not flirting, it fails twice: 1) you could have done it to any girl, she’s not going to take you seriously, 2) it in no way makes her feel good about herself, she feels like a “thing”; and guys who do this are no good at flirting at all, they’re jerks.
Follow your heart and follow these guidelines, and you’ll be making a lot of female friends before you know it. You’ve got personality, these three rules will help you display it in an attractive way. Doing fine with women is basically being your old friendly fun-loving self, bolstered by self-confidence, having some life skills, and knowing how to flirt.
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